Why “I’m Good With Whatever” Makes You The Most Annoying Friend In The Group

Have you ever noticed that making plans with a group of women often takes longer than the actual hangout? The back-and-forth texts, the “What works for you?” question,  the fragile dance of pretending we all have no preferences—it’s unpaid project management. And while saying “I’m good with whatever, you all decide” sounds chill, it’s not. It’s annoying.

I know this because I do it all the time, and if I’m being frank, I’m not being flexible as much as I’m being lazy, and fearful that my suggestion will be met with the deafening silence of group chat rejection. So, instead, I stall, cross my fingers, and hope someone else will step up, do the logistical gymnastics, and pick a spot that magically checks everyone’s boxes.

But here’s the hard truth: no one wants that job. No one dreams of being the girl group social secretary, and no one wakes in the morning and says Today, I really hope I get the opportunity to herd seven indecisive women into a happy hour reservation.

So, in the spirit of personal growth and working harder to be a mature, responsible, functioning adult, I’ve decided I’m going to try to be that person-the one who makes the call. Bold, fearless, and maybe slightly manipulative. Because let’s face it, if you speak up first, you get to pick a place five minutes from your home with plenty of parking, decent lighting, and the appetizer menu you’ve already memorized.

Win-win.